Todays research has led me to try : Overlooking the negative and finding the positive today. The research shows that too often in relationships, as time passes we dwell on what they don’t do, instead of what they do, do. Yesterday on my ride home I had came to this conclusion so when I researched it I felt it fit.
I, again get home before he does and I have it clear in my mind that I will NOT be negative tonight. I will find a positive in every situation. When he gets home, the task at first seems easy. How nice he looks, he is smiling, playing with the kids. But as the night goes on, it becomes harder to be positive: doesn’t he know it’s a school night? Can’t he see our youngest needs a bath? Our daughter has not finished her homework! Couldn’t he offer to help with the dishes? The negative continues to “creep” in and I find myself constantly biting my tongue, stopping in mid sentence. WOW, who have I become? I am a nag! When did I lose the fun side of me? When did I become so serious? Its only day 2 and I am already seeing that I am a hard person to live with. … This started off about him and is becoming 90% about me. All the negative I see, IF I stop and look close enough, there is a positive. Look how great of a Daddy he is, he really loves playing with the kids. He is right where he wants to be when he is in the middle of our living room floor playing with them. Yeah, I am stuck in the kitchen BUT when I ask for help, he jumps right up. I think I will spend one more day on this not being negative goal. Yeah this one is hard for me to swallow and even harder for me to do. Day 3.. here me and my positive outlook come!!!
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