Update on Days 4, 5, and 6 (Nov 4- 6, 2011)

It is Friday and that means I will have all weekend at home with my husband and kids. I have done some research and here is my plan for the next 3 days.

Day 4: Researching online says that one should increase touching when feeling disconnected, so tonight I will make it a point to touch every chance I get. (and i am not talking nasty.. I mean a hug, a touch on the back, a brush as I walk by).

Day 5: It says that letting them know you trust them... so since we will be out of town at a soccer game, I am going to put all decisions in his hands. This will be extremely hard for me. BUT I am going to do it.. follow his lead. :)

Day 6: It says try doing something he enjoys with him. He recently has started trying to get back into shape by walking each day, I will join him on his walk. :)

These are all baby steps but so far I feel like I am learning alot already. I will write back Monday to update how its going. It is important to note............ YES I am continueing to work on ME being positive, on top of all the other goals. :) Have a GREAT weekend, I plan to!!!

Day 1: Nov 1, 2011

After lots of research online into rebuilding a relationship I have decided my first day’s goal is to compliment my husband. I have to admit, at first this seemed to be an easy enough task, but as I drive home and am planning what to do.. I realize, the last few years I have failed to ever compliment him. Wow how did I get to the point that it is hard to find something about my husband that I find attractive? As I drive I begin to really think about this and realize that maybe it’s not that there is nothing but that I have made it a habit to concentrate on the negative. I start thinking back to when I met him. I loved how silly he was and how he could always make me laugh. I loved his sense of style and the fact that he worked so hard to be healthy and that making me and the kids happy was his priority. I remember how he would push the kids on the tire swing for hours in the back yard. As I am thinking back I find myself smiling. There is hope of us being happy again, I JUST know it!

I get home before he does. I cook supper and wait for him. When he gets home, he is tired from his first day at the new job. I make it a point to tell him how nice the uniform looks on him, and he smiles. A real genuine smile….. OK this complimenting thing does work. Throughout the evening I find a few other ways to compliment and as I do I find him doing the same. It’s a nice evening, it’s nice to be nice and to be treated nice. I have enjoyed an evening at home for the first time in a long time. I even get a night kiss before bed. On to Day 2.

Introduction

I am in my 7^th year of marriage and looking for someway to feel more connected to my husband. Lately we seem more like roommates than lovers. I have decided to dedicate the next 30 days to making us better/ stronger.

This is my search to find the man I fell in love with and the woman that I used to be.